Everyone has a vice.
These can be physical:
- Junk food
- Blaming others
- Shaming others
- The need to be right
- Codependent relationship
- Social media validation
- Validation from people
Everyone has their own, some bigger than others. I’m not saying all vices are bad, but most are our hiding place. A place to ease our pain during distress. A way to cope and alleviate stress.
For me, one of my biggest ones was alcohol. I believed in the work hard play hard mantra. But I also liked it because of all the positive reinforcing references I developed throughout college to my young adulthood. It had a nice buzz, but more importantly it removed my perceived social inhibitions where I could be more relaxed, confident, and carefree. They call it liquid confidence for a reason.
During my most stressful periods of work, I relied on it not for social reasons, but as a way to relax and cope at the end of the day. It is extremely difficult not to fall back when you’re stressed out as it is during these periods that truly test your discipline. These are the days when you want to just come home and relax as much as possible before you have to sleep and grind through the next day again.
So the first step is to first identify what your vice is and then understand why you rely on it or fall back to it (only you can figure that out).
I don’t drink anymore. If I do, it would only be a couple beers socially, nothing like how it was before. I don’t crave it anymore, but the question is if I can maintain my discipline through all of the ups and downs of life ahead which I’m committed to do.
So what is your vice?